How To Be Right About Everything

1. Relationships occur in your mind and nowhere else.

2. Don’t judge others period - focus only on you.

3. Others are innocent always and in all ways – no exceptions.

Follow this simple understanding and you will have peaceful, easy-going relationships. Insist on maintaining your self-assigned entitlement to judge others and your relationships will ALWAYS and ONLY seem complex, mysterious, confusing, conflicting, and catalysts of feelings of stress, anxiety, disconnectedness, depression and all sorts of other characteristically uncomfortable experiences.

If you can't or can understand this but simply prefer your judgments that others are different than you, the consequences are inevitable - your life will be full of confusion and conflict. If you feel that your judgments are valuable, you will not accept the statement that judgments are ALWAYS and ONLY accompanied by confusion and conflict.

Pretending this is not true will not clear your confusion. Others don’t acquiesce to your concept of them if you see them as anything other than your equal. Inequality and dis-unity is the root of all conflict. Get out of the business of telling others how they feel. You do this through silent or spoken accusation or judgment. This is arrogant and always invites conflict. Unless you desire conflict, stop immediately. Be quiet. Take a break. Focus on you and you alone.

Your ego will find the above statements entirely ridiculous because its operating assumption is that there is always something outside of yourself to blame for what you’re experiencing. If you choose to follow the ego’s reasoning, you will WEAKEN yourself because you are making the outside world, to include the others in your life, responsible for how you feel in any moment. This is the awareness and experience of DIS-EMPOWERMENT.

Many choose this path and this necessitates that the pursuit of ‘control’ become their life’s purpose with everything and everyone - though they will likely not recognize them selves as 'control freaks.' And, they will probably be hateful of others that they perceive as controlling. Ironically, choosers of this path actually experience a steady erosion of the very ‘control’ they set out to develop over their life. They then spend most of their experiential time swinging like a pendulum from one relationship to the next and from one emotion to the next. Nothing is stable or certain for these people except that they seem to be a lost island unto themselves - that nobody understands. In time, they might even document their wild drama in a book. This path is not recommended here, nor however is it suggested that you judge yourself or others as on this path – as that too will weaken you. In reality, neither you nor anyone else is on this road.

If you resonate with these words, be grateful for the awareness, and remember the power of your choice to change how you see yourself and others. Go back to relationship basics steps 1, 2, & 3 shown above.

Thoughts equal cause. Experience equals effect.

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Nash Mourad and his partner Kay-Marie Adkins run the consulting firm Emergent Awareness. They help top companies and government agencies develop vision, build diverse and international teams, solve previously unsolved problems and manage multiple business transformations. To learn more about facts, choices, and the right-minded perception that fosters personal peace and empowerment, read Nash’s new book, How To Be Right About Everything – Volume 1.